That unconditional, overpowering love you feel when you give birth changes your life.

I have been blessed with two amazing daughters. Of course, there have been times in their lives when I have been fearful for them, afraid of the choices they made. Other times I have been intensely proud of them, rejoicing in their choices! Cried with and for them as they had their hearts broken, and celebrated when they have announced they have found the man they wished to spend the rest of their lives with.

I was totally unprepared for the emotion I felt when each of them, in turn, announced they were to become mothers. To see them grow both physically and emotionally during their pregnancies. The knowledge they acquired during this time, making sure they were comfortable with the choices they made. I know that both girls were much more informed than ever I was during my pregnancies.

I now have four amazing grandchildren. It is impossible to describe the love I have for them, somehow I almost feel as though I have been given a “second chance”. I certainly do not have the day to day responsibility, but feel if it is possible to pass on some of the experiences of my life and to be privileged to assist with the teaching, by example, of values and respect that I hope my children’s children will accept in their daily lives. Words can’t really describe this relationship, only a grandparent really knows what it is like to experience this uniqueness, the undying love that will never fade. The forgiveness I know I will have when they falter and the pride at every success be it small or large. The wonder at seeing a baby’s eyes light up when there is recognition of your face, their first steps, first swimming lesson, first day at school, first public performance and so the “firsts” continue.

To every grandmother who has lost a grandchild, my heart goes out to you. I cannot imagine a more difficult loss.

To my beautiful daughters, thank you for giving me this most precious gift. And to God for his amazing blessings.

“A garden of Love grows in a Grandmother’s heart”

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Liz Wilkes is a Managing Director and Midwive of My Midwives